My best friend is telling me my boyfriend cheated on her, but he says that she’s lying.
The False Accusation and the Test
My best friend Becca called me drunk last Saturday asking for a ride home. I couldn’t pick her up and instead asked my boyfriend Nate to get her. A couple of days later he started being weird with his phone. He started putting it face down and even changed his password.
Well, yesterday I saw Becca and told her about it. She suddenly started balling.
She said they hooked up in his car the night that he came to pick her up. I asked her to show me the texts but they were all in the app Signal which deletes messages after a day. When I got home I confronted Nate and he denied it.
He did admit they were talking on Signal but he said that he was actually just asking her about engagement rings for me. That’s when Becca texted him asking if he remembers what they did the other night. He instantly replied asking her what she was on about and she told him to stop playing dumb.
Nate then called her pretending I wasn’t in the room and told her to stop whatever she was doing. But she just kept telling Nate to stop lying until he got angry and hung up on her. I still don’t know what to think.
I told Nate that I had found out a way to recover deleted messages from Signal. He immediately took out his phone and opened the app and asked me to show him how to do it. So I already thought that must mean he was telling me the truth because he didn’t panic or hesitate at all.
When I tried to download Signal on my old phone it turned out that it’s too old to support the current version of the app so it wouldn’t work. Nate then asked me if we were going to have to go out and buy a new phone for me to believe that he was telling me the truth. He said that he was willing to do it if that’s what it would take.
I told Nate it wasn’t that I didn’t believe him, I just wanted to have some proof because I just couldn’t understand why Becca would lie about it. Nate said that she would lie about it because she’s a crazy drunk “B” and there’s literally no way for a non-crazy person to understand why she would do anything.
Nate said that he would hope I know that and that he didn’t understand why I didn’t take his word for it in the first place. I started trying to explain why I didn’t want to just immediately dismiss what Becca had said happened but Nate said that he really couldn’t listen to that right now. I said that was fair and agreed that I would cut Becca off but that first I wanted to try to get her to admit that nothing happened.
Nate said fine but to call her with my phone on speaker because he thought he also deserved to hear her admit that she was lying.
I called Becca and I said the same thing to her that I said to Nate, that I figured out how to recover deleted messages on Signal. She asked me why I would need to do that. That was when I knew for sure that she was definitely making it up and not just confused somehow.
I said it was because I wanted to have proof of what she and Nate talked about. Becca asked me if I saw their messages so I lied and said yes. After that Becca just went silent until finally I asked her if she was going to say anything.
Then she asked me: “If that meant that we were engaged now?”
I really just lost it on her and screamed at her asking her if she was serious and what the “F” was wrong with her and how could that possibly be all that she had to say.
Becca started screaming back telling me to calm down and about how obviously: “I never believed her anyway because it’s not like we broke up over it.”
I was crying by that point and because of that I couldn’t really say anything else.
Nate told Becca to go ‘F’ herself and to never ever contact either one of us ever again and hung up on her.
A minute later Becca sent me a completely unhinged text that I’m quoting here verbatim apart from change names: “Courtney, you are supposed to be my friend for life.” “You are supposed to be there for me.”
“You are supposed to be my person.” “But then you meet Nate and now you only care about Nate.” “Everything is about Nate.” “Tell me why Nate comes to pick me up when I call you.” “I called you, not your precious ‘E’ing.” “I only want you to see how ‘E’ed up this is, but do you?” “No, of course you don’t.”
“Of course you choose Nate over me like you always do and like you always will.” “You pretend to care about me but I can see you don’t care.” “It is pathetic Courtney.” “You are a pathetic woman who would choose a man over a friend.” “But since you can’t say it yourself I will.”
“Since you have to have your sweet perfect little baby Nate do it for you, I will.” “Goodbye Courtney, is that what you want?” “Goodbye forever.” “I hope you got what you want.”
There were the three dots after that showing she was still typing more but I blocked her before she sent it. I don’t care about anything else that she has to say. I’m sure it’s all just going to be more about why this is my fault or justifications about why what she did wasn’t that bad and I should forgive her.
My best guess is that whoever said that Becca still blames me and Nate, apparently mostly Nate, for her being a drunk mess who can’t get her life together is right. It seems like she somehow thought that if she said she hooked up with Nate I’d break up with him but still want to be friends with her and then everything would magically be fixed.
