AITAH for not being emotionally invested in my relationship since my wife opened our relationship a year ago?
The Confrontation and The Realization
This carried on for a year, and my wife didn’t say anything even though she noticed everything that was happening. However, a few days ago was her birthday.
I had genuinely forgotten it was her birthday till my wife reminded me that afternoon. My wife likes to be surprised, and for almost 17 years, I have always surprised her with a gift. But this year, I had completely forgotten it was her birthday.
My wife hadn’t even reminded me her birthday was coming up. My wife and I then had an honest talk.
For the first time I told her I am not as emotionally invested in this relationship as I was prior to her opening the relationship. I told her it was unintentional, and that she’s a really great wife and mom to our son.
My wife then broke down in tears, and said it was 2 months since she had closed the relationship, and that she would never open the relationship again.
She also said it would really mean a lot to her I could get back to how I was before she opened the relationship. I did not know my wife had closed the relationship 2 months ago, and I told her I’ll try, but I don’t know.
Am I the AH for not being emotionally invested in the relationship since my wife opened the relationship last year?
