My family are demanding I get back with my ex.
The Forced Intervention and Immediate Aftermath
When I refused to get back with my ex, they started stalking and harassing me. A few weeks ago, my mom invited me over for lunch. Despite my sixth sense telling me not to go, I visited anyway. The first thing I noticed when I walked in was not only my sister, who I went no contact with six years ago, but also my ex, who I broke up with six years ago.
I instantly knew what they were trying to accomplish, and so I tried to walk out. However, my sister’s husband was standing at the door.
He told me to sit down for my own sake.
A minute later, my sister spoke, and what came out of her mouth made me double over in laughter. She said that after hearing the news that I am pregnant, they all feel as if I am making a mistake. It is their duty to prove that my ex is the right man for me.
They also think that once my baby is born, my husband should sign over his parental rights to my ex. I didn’t even get a chance to respond before my sister began reading a letter. It was a letter about how my ex was always the man for me and how I tore our family apart by choosing not to marry my ex.
Perhaps five minutes later, my brother arrived. He was angry beyond anything I’ve ever seen before. He grabbed my stuff and told them all he was really disappointed and disgusted in their actions. We went outside and sat in his car until my dad and my husband arrived.
By then, I was just sobbing, and he kept saying sorry. I am unsure what happened in there. Afterward, my husband told them they had to think very well about what they appreciated and to be kind and receptive to everything. He said they would not raise a kid in a toxic environment.
I sent everybody except Mom an email with my lawyer’s number info attached. I stated I don’t wish to be contacted by any of them ever again and if they do, I will go to the police. Nobody has contacted me, but I know from my dad my mom and sister are hysterical.
They told him they hope to repair things and for my sister to be able to be in my baby’s life. Maybe possibly being a godmother. My dad is staying with my brother at the moment. They support me but some others in the family don’t.
I’ve even had mutual friends call me since they are worried about my sister’s well-being. They are asking me what happened since she is now going by the narrative that my husband is keeping me away from my family. I hate having my business in public, but I did go the public route.
I posted an FB post about everything that happened. Sister, Bill, and Ex are being dragged, which even if it wasn’t 100% intended, I feel is deserved. I had a conversation with my mother, but she insists she knows best, I am a bad person, and she will be getting grandparents rights or even custody of my child.
I don’t know what she says, but I still panicked so we sent her a letter about it. My dad moved out definitely. He told her that he could not sign on her terrorizing his kid. My brother and his wife also decided to go and see. I know it seems very sudden, but I think I understand the level of despair I had after the intervention.
My husband is very heartbroken about my mom and her fakeness. He says she will never get anything from him. That is as much as revenge goes here. My husband and sisters talked to my mother-in-law about her comment and made her understand why it was very out of it.
As many of you assumed, she is a very loving mom from a loving family. My dad and brother keep apologizing for any role they played on this. My dad can’t believe it went to this point. He says it is still surreal for him.
Regardless, they support me no matter what and say they are willing to help me fight whatever ridiculous fight my mom or sister put. My brother and his wife sat my nephews down and explained that Grandma was ill and tried to hurt Auntie Diamond and the little cousin. They explained grandma would not be part of their lives anymore, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t love them.
It was really hard but the kids are smart. They were also told the other aunt is no longer in their life. They don’t care because they dislike her, not because of me alone. Simply because she is not exactly great with them either.
My mom lost it when she was informed and started claiming she had rights and she will get to see her grandchildren. My dad is looking for a permanent place but will stay with us until January. This is mainly due to my brother’s mother-in-law coming to visit and we having the space.
He is really sad, has called divorce lawyers already, and moved bank stuff, etc.. He has been getting countless emails, messages, and calls from my mom, but he doesn’t reply to anything. The lawyer told him to not block her right now.
He considered maybe forgiving her, but I got a huge spike on my blood pressure a couple days after my last post here. This was because she decided to come to my place with my sister. My sister had never been to my home. My mom knew I didn’t want her there, but I guess that doesn’t matter anymore.
The cleaning lady let them in since she knows my mom. I haven’t had the time to inform her she was not allowed to come in anymore. I was just coming from some errands, and I saw the car. This time I didn’t get in.
I called all of my relatives, and my husband’s sister was the one closer to me. She confronted them and told them either they leave or I called the police on them for trespassing. They left, and I started feeling bad.
We went to the doctor, and they told me all the excitement was not good. They said I need to start relaxing or it would hurt the baby. My dad went home with my brother, uncle, and my husband and took every single thing he could think of.
My husband says my sister was there too and she kept screaming at him that he destroyed her family. My dad told my mom and sister they almost killed the baby, and he also doesn’t want to talk to any of them again. My sister kept sending messages to my brother begging for help, but it is not happening.
I am devastated and very sad for my nephew since he is losing so much of his family because his mother has some wacky ideas. But it is what it is. As per the custody and grandparent rights my mom wants to throw around so much, my lawyer sent her a letter stating she caused harm to my health and the baby.
If she keeps harassing me, it will become an official legal matter. My brother also sent her a letter using her harassing of me. Both Mom and sister have refused to go to therapy. They might be mentally ill, but with all of this coming to light, it is obvious they have been in agreement for a long time. I will focus on spending the holidays with my family, being healthy, and going to therapy.
