She used “divorce” like a weapon in every fight, so I finally accepted it and walked away.

The Weaponization of Divorce

She used divorce like a weapon in every fight so i finally accepted it and walked away. Now she wants me to reconsider but i’m done.

Hello reddit i plus here. I’m 32 i’ve been married to cassie for 6 years.

We met in our early 20s college sweethearts. She was smart funny and beautiful in a way that made people turn their heads.

I was a regular guy. I think a part of me always knew she was a bit out of my league but we clicked.

In the beginning everything felt right. We traveled laughed made plans for the future.

We bought a little house just outside denver got a dog and talked about kids someday. But over the years things shifted.

The laughter became less frequent the silences heavier. Fights started small dishes money my long hours at work.

I’m a civil engineer nothing explosive at first. But then she started using a word like it was punctuation.

Maybe we should just get divorced. Maybe i married the wrong person.

If this is how it’s going to be what’s the point of staying married every single argument ended with her dropping the d-word like a grenade. At first i panicked.

I’d beg i’d apologize i’d try to fix it. I even started therapy alone hoping if i could be better she’d stop pushing me away.

But it didn’t matter what i did she’d still say it. After a while something in me started to change.

I stopped chasing after her when she walked out of the room mid-argument. I stopped graveling.

I started to listen to what she was really saying. She wasn’t fighting for us she was fighting to punish me to control me.

The final straw came one night about 4 months ago. It was late i just gotten home from a job site 2 hours away.

I was exhausted. I walked in and she was sitting on the couch arms folded.

“i’m done,” she said coldly “i want a divorce.”

I nodded. I didn’t say anything i just walked past her went to our room and started packing a bag.

She followed me confused what are you doing.

You said you wanted a divorce i’m finally agreeing with you.

Her whole face shifted.

Wait no i didn’t mean now i was just upset.