What’s the most delusional thing a loved one has ever said to you

The Initial Conflict and Sister’s Revelation

My crazy fiance demanded I invite my parents who abandoned me to our wedding. When I kept refusing, she took it upon herself to bring my sister to our house and then revealed a disgusting secret that made my heartbreak.

My dad left when I was four. My mom remarried, and my stepdad told me at 6 years old that he’ll never be my dad. They always saw me as a burden. The day I turned 18, my mom woke me up with a suitcase full of my belongings and told me to leave. I have had no contact with them since.

When I first met my fiance, I told her about my family. Instead of being empathetic, she encouraged me to reconnect. When the wedding planning started, she kept saying I should invite my parents.

I often explained how growing up unloved affected me, but she never listened. Just last night, she said, “you know if you don’t invite your parents I will.” She added, “you just don’t know what’s best for you, you’ll thank me for it in the long run”.

I immediately snapped. I told her if she couldn’t respect what I’ve been through then I don’t want to marry her. Even then, she kept trying to persuade me to invite them. I eventually walked out, grabbed my keys, and left.

I came back around 11:00 p.m. after hanging with friends and slept on the couch. She left for work without a word to me.

My fiance normally gets home around 5:30 p.m.. Since I work from home, I waited for her to show up after I was done working. I got very worried when it was 6 and she still wasn’t home.

Around 6:15, she showed up with my half-sister, which was a big surprise. While my sister and I connect every Thursday, we live 45 minutes away from each other. Her popping by is not normal. Both of them looked very anxious, so I was very confused.

I asked them what was going on and my sister just burst into tears and said she’s sorry. After like 5 minutes of her losing it, she starts talking about the family.

Apparently, when she told my mom and Dale, my stepdad, that I got engaged, it started a rift between them. This was not because they cared about me, but about how my half-brother, who is 27, is still living at home single with no steady job.

If you’re thinking, “wow they kicked you out at 18 but let him stay there past when he could rent a car,” don’t worry, I said it out loud. My mom apparently wants to do the same to my half-brother but Dale won’t let her. So they are currently separated with my mom living with my family.

She is refusing to come back until my half-brother is out of the house. For some reason that defies all logic and reason, my sister thinks getting an invite to my wedding will bring the family together. She believed this since it was my engagement that caused the rift.

At this, I blew up a bit. I told her that my engagement had nothing to do with it. I stated that their shitty parenting and poor relationship skills caused it, and “don’t put that on me”.

She cried even harder and this time I was not going to console her. My fiance is just sitting there the whole time. While my sister is trying to get herself together, I question my fiance about this.

She also tears up a bit but tells me my sister was telling her about how I always bring up the family on our Thursday. She claimed that deep down I wanted to repair the relationship.

I asked how she could believe that when I was very clear that I was no contact with my family. I had never mentioned wanting to be in contact.

I told her that I tell her everything and would never hold back something like this without talking to her. She’s always been my sounding board. When I switched jobs last year, we talked about it every night and her advice mattered more than anyone else.

She apologized and then wanted to show me her phone, specifically the messages between her and my sister. At this point, my sister perks up and asks her not to show the phone conversation. My fiance tells her she’s trying to save her relationship.

My sister has just been straight up lying about our Thursday conversations. She was saying how I was always talking about reconciling. She claimed how I would never admit it but I’m partially at fault too, and how I really want to see them all again.

Every time I would tell my fiance no, she would text my sister. My sister would talk about how I just couldn’t be open because I was embarrassed. This was completely false. I would be perfectly happy never seeing any of them again. I can’t believe my sister still sees them.

At this, I tell my half sister to leave and that Thursdays are canceled. My sister puts up a little bit of a fight but I ignore her until she leaves. She keeps saying sorry over and over again but honestly I’m done with her. I’ve blocked her and will be no contact with her for the time being. This was a complete betrayal of my feelings and relationships.

As for my fiance and I, I am still very upset. She went behind my back with my sister, never asked me about it, let my sister manipulate her, and honestly hurt me. I told her I love her but my trust is broken.

We’ve agreed to go to coup’s therapy and see if we can repair the relationship. I hope we can but I say it’s a tossup for me. She’s got a lot of work to do.